When it comes to New Year’s resolutions, it seems like people fall into one of two camps: you make big resolutions, or you don’t make any at all. When I was in my 20s, I probably fell into the former camp. Now that I’m a mom in my 30s, I fall into the latter. This isn’t my year to set an unattainable goal or make a drastic change. This doesn’t mean that I don’t like to reflect on the past year and think about what I want in the future, but I want to make sure that I’m setting attainable goals rather than setting myself up for disappointment. If you, too, are looking for an alternative to typical New Year’s resolutions, check out these five creative ideas.
1. Trade resolutions for reflections.
Instead of focusing on what went wrong last year, take a moment to reflect on everything you’re grateful for. Think of the small victories, the special memories, and the lessons learned that helped shape your year. Holding onto these positive moments as you enter the new year can set a more uplifting and meaningful tone than traditional resolutions.
Practical Tip: Write down three things you’re thankful for from last year. Keep this list somewhere visible to remind you of the good as you step into the future.
2. Just be yourself.
As the new year begins, we’ll be inundated with ads promising transformation: skincare products for flawless skin, fitness programs to “get in shape,” and diets to overhaul your eating habits. The messaging can be overwhelming—and let’s be honest, not the best for our self-esteem.
What if, instead of focusing on ways to change, we worked on embracing who we already are? Acceptance doesn’t mean settling; it means recognizing your worth right now.
3. Choose a word for the year.
Rather than setting a resolution like “lose weight” or “eat healthier,” consider choosing a word that reflects your hopes for the year. A single word can act as a guiding principle, helping you stay grounded and focused on what truly matters.
Examples of Words to Consider:
- Grace: A reminder to give yourself and others the benefit of the doubt.
- Joy: Focus on finding happiness in the small, everyday moments.
- Relax: Prioritize rest and create space for peace in your life.
4. Build a habit.
Maybe you do want to set a goal this year but aren’t sure how to make it happen. Building a habit might be the perfect solution. The key to success is starting small and making incremental changes over time. For example, if you want to read more, commit to just five minutes a day. Over time, this can turn into a sustainable, long-term habit.
5. Don’t do anything at all.
As moms, we’re often our own toughest critics. We set high expectations, push ourselves to meet them, and then feel guilty if we fall short. Why add even more pressure just because it’s a new calendar year?
Sometimes, the best thing you can do is nothing. That’s right—no resolutions, no big changes, no added expectations. Take the time to simply be. As this Kansas City Mom contributor wisely shares, “I don’t know about you, but expectations I place on myself are additionally difficult because I can be really hard on myself. If you’re in a mental space similar to mine, do yourself a kindness and don’t set specific expectations as we begin this new year.”
The new year doesn’t have to be about radical transformations or adding more to your plate. Whether you choose to reflect, build a habit, or simply do nothing at all, remember that you are enough just as you are. By taking intentional steps—or none at all—you can create a year that feels meaningful and aligned with who you truly are.
Discover More Resources: Explore additional insights and ideas for navigating the new year on City Mom Collective.
