One of the first things I learned when I had my daughter is that nothing can prepare you for those first few weeks postpartum. No one tells you how much of a sleep-deprived, hormonal mess you are. You ride the waves and manage to keep swimming, but it isn’t until you get through it that you realize you weren’t fully functioning as a human being.
This time, I am a little more prepared on what to expect. I will have a better idea of what is worth stressing over and what is not worth googling and making myself feel like I am doing everything wrong.
Suffice it to say, my first maternity leave was a bit of a blur. This time around, I am a little more prepared and a lot less paranoid. I’m hoping to enjoy my time off (which I did the first time, once I stopped freaking out).
In just a few short months, here’s what I’m hoping to accomplish and enjoy:
1. Prioritize Self-Care: Shower or Bathe Regularly
In the chaos of newborn life, personal hygiene often takes a backseat. With my toddler in daycare this time around, I plan to carve out moments to refresh myself. A quick shower can feel like a mini spa day and do wonders for my mental health.
Related: How to Prioritize Self-Care as a Mom
2. Get Out of the House Three Days a Week
Winter may not be the easiest season for outings, but getting out—even if it’s just for a coffee run or a walk around the block—can break up the monotony. I’m determined to bundle up baby girl and enjoy some fresh air, even if it’s chilly. Bonus: tackling holiday shopping together!
Pro Tip: Check out these winter baby outing essentials to make your trips more manageable.
3. Build Confidence: Nurse in Public
The thought of nursing in public was daunting the first time around. But this time, I’m embracing it. Nursing is natural and necessary, and I plan to practice early and often to build my confidence.
For tips on making nursing easier while out and about, read Breastfeeding Confidence: Tips for Nursing Moms.
4. Nap When the Baby Naps—At Least Once a Week
The to-do list can wait. With this pregnancy already leaving me exhausted, I’m promising myself at least one nap a week. Rested moms are happier moms!
Need inspiration? Explore How to Manage Postpartum Fatigue for more tips.
5. Accept Help from Others
This is a big one. I’ll say “yes” to every meal, offer of babysitting, and kind gesture from friends and family. Having help not only eases the workload but also creates moments of connection and support during this hectic time.
Related: Why It’s Okay to Accept Help as a Mom
6. Stock the Freezer with Meals
Winter is the perfect time to prepare hearty, comforting meals that can be frozen for later. Soups, casseroles, and pastas will be lifesavers when I need quick, nourishing meals after a long day.
Check out 20 Freezer Meals for New Moms for inspiration.
7. Spend One-on-One Time with My Toddler
The transition from one child to two can be tough on everyone, especially the older sibling. I’m planning intentional moments with my toddler—whether it’s a breakfast date or a dance class—to ensure she feels loved and valued.
Related: How to Help Your Toddler Adjust to a New Sibling
8. Plan a Day Date with My Husband
Amid the sleepless nights and endless diaper changes, making time for my husband is a priority. With our toddler in daycare, we’ll sneak in a lunch date or two, even if it means bringing the baby along in a carrier.
For creative ideas, check out 5 Fun Day Date Ideas for New Parents.
9. Make the Most of Maternity Leave
Though my leave won’t be as long as I’d like, I’m choosing to focus on gratitude for the time I do have. Whether it’s snuggling my newborn or creating memories with my family of four, I’m determined to have no regrets.
Related: How to Balance Work and Motherhood
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Why a Maternity Leave Bucket List Matters
Each maternity leave is unique, and this list helps balance the practical and emotional aspects of welcoming a new baby. From self-care to family bonding, these small goals can make a big difference in how you experience this precious time.
Pro Tips for Expectant Moms:
- Share your goals with your partner to ensure they’re on board and can help you achieve them.
- Use a digital planner to organize outings, meal prep, and one-on-one time with family.
- Capture small moments—take photos or journal about your days to look back on this special time.
Embrace this chapter with joy and flexibility, knowing you’re creating memories and building a foundation for your growing family.
About the Author
About {Kristin}
As a momma to her sweet and spunky little girl Hannah (November 2013), Kristin finds herself enjoying and learning from the rewards and challenges of motherhood each day. Armed with the strength and grace of God, she strives to be a mom who embraces each moment and puts her family first. She married her college sweetheart David in August 2007 and lives in Des Moines where she attends the Vineyard Church. Kristin works as a freelance editor and is a wannabe freelance writer who enjoys baking, reading, writing, running, and spending time with family and friends. When she writes her own blog, Kristin loves sharing her heart, learning experiences, and adventures as a momma in letters to her daughter at Dear Baby with Love.
