To: My Mom Friends
I’m writing this to say one little thing: thank you. I’d be lost without you. You’ve laughed with me at my best and you’ve given me a pep talk at my worst. You’ve offered support when my cute kids turn into little monsters. Any mom knows what I’m talking about.
Thank you for stopping by my house after my first child was born, bringing me pizza, salad, and wine. We talked about the nitty gritty details of labor, giving birth and the difficulties during the first few days with little sleep. While we knew each other before babies, our relationship post-kid is entirely different in the best way possible. It takes a special friend to truly become a “mom friend.”
Thank you for talking to me when I was 7 weeks postpartum at baby swim class. I have no idea what made me put on a bikini at that point in life, but you looked past the flab and saw a potential friend. I truly needed someone to encourage me to get out of the house and to talk about things like cluster feedings, diaper blowouts, and nursing bras. Because those topics were truly all I could think about at that time.
So Many Thanks
Thank you for making small talk at my mommy and me workout class. Not only did you help relieve that feeling of being the new kid in class, you also gave me confidence that jumping jacks are possible after birth (even if they do cause me to pee just a tiny little bit). Your conversation encouraged me to return to class over and over and commit to a fitness routine. You are still motivating me many years later.
Thank you for listening to me complain over and over about those sleepless nights. I’m just going to say it, those were brutal. I was exhausted and probably not talking in complete sentences, but you never once judged me. Your commiseration was all I needed.
Thank you for supporting me when I went back to work after my maternity leave ended. You listened to me talk non-stop about daycare, pumping at work and managing my crazy schedule. Even though my schedule never got easier, it helped that I had a friend to enjoy a glass of wine with on a rare off-night.
Thank you for attending my kids’ first birthday parties. You appreciated my attempt to be a Pinterest-mom since my kids clearly will not remember my hand-made banners and signs. You brought them tried-and-true gifts and made the day that much more memorable. I can’t believe I didn’t know so many of you a mere 365 days earlier.
Thank you for introducing me to your mom friends. I’ve met so many other cool moms at your park play dates, even if it was because my daughter pushed your friend’s child. Thank you (and your friend) for not judging my parenting.
Thank you for joining me for mom’s night out. Even though we were all 30 minutes late (#momtime), the A/C wasn’t working at the theater during “Bad Moms,” and the mechanical bull was broken (let’s be honest, that was a good thing), you’ve given me more than just a much-needed break from my kids.
I may have survived the last few years without you, but it wouldn’t have been nearly as much fun. Thank you for being my mom friend.
We Are Moms
All mom friendships are different. Some go through phases and others last years, but all are equally important. Having someone to talk to who understands is irreplaceable. It doesn’t matter if we haven’t known each other since we were in middle school, we have something in common: we are moms. And motherhood is tough. I may have survived the last few years without you, but it wouldn’t have been nearly as much fun. Thank you for being my mom friend.
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Contributing Sister Site and Author
Jenny Donnell is an Ohio native who fled the cold winters and gray skies for sunny Arizona over 5 years ago. She is married to her husband of 9 amazing years, has two crazy kids and a Siberian Husky who loves the heat. Jenny recently became a full-time mama after spending 12 years working in IT consulting at a Big 4 accounting firm. Even though she’s left the world of spreadsheets and memos, she loves to write and spends her free time (do moms really have free time?) writing on her personal blog, thesensibleshopaholic.com. As a self-proclaimed sale shopper, she’s on a mission to find fashionable and trendy items for less. Jenny also loves working out with Fit4Mom/Stroller Strides, hiking, traveling, reality TV, wine and spending time with friends and family.
Jenny is a contributor for Scottsdale Moms Blog, one of our Sister Sites.